Sexual Trauma and Sex Addiction in Women – The Link

Women who struggle with sexual addiction, relational or love addiction or sexual mismanagement have often times, been affected by various forms of sexual abuse or trauma.

During the years I spent leading a sexual addiction recovery group for women at the Willow Creek Community Church (mega-church), I realized that we all had similar pieces to our stories. I found that usually one or more of the following traumas or abuses had occurred during our childhoods.

1. Sexual Molestation

This could include any adult taking advantage of a child’s sexuality for the adult’s benefit or “high.” It could be inappropriate touch to the child or touching of the adult by the child, intentional exposure of the adult’s genitals to the child, penetration of the child, photographing the child without clothing or watching the child undress. This is not an all-inclusive list.

2. Exposure to Pornography

This could have been intentional or unintentional exposure to explicit cable TV movies, porn videos, porn magazines, or internet pornography. This could also be sexually explicit romance novels or cyber sex chat rooms.

3. Rape or Sexual Assault

Sexual Assault is a sexual act done to a person against their will. This can range anywhere from uninvited touch to non-concentual penetration of any sort. Sexual assault is a crime of violence and power.

4. Abortion

This is an operation or other procedure to end a pregnancy by removing an embryo or fetus from a women’s womb.

5. Abandonment by Father

This abandonment could range anywhere from a workaholic dad all the way to a father who physically left the home. The father piece appeared to be a big common factor amongst us. Many didn’t have fathers who emotionally connected with them.

Each one of the traumas that I listed above I have seen as common threads among women who are challenged with sexual addiction, love addiction, relationship addiction or just sexual mismanagement. You can see how any of the traumas above could affect a woman’s beliefs about her own self worth and her sexuality.

Sexual trauma has the ability to distort a person’s sexual attitudes and can lead to promiscuity, sexual anorexia, detachment during sex, sabotage of intimate relationships or even compulsive sexual behaviors such as solo sex, cyber sex and multiple affairs.

If you see yourself in any of the above scenarios, you could benefit from a program that is set up to give you the necessary information about how you wound up on this path, accountability and support for your transformation.

 

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An Ideal Age Must Be Valued For Online Chat Rooms

People are generally curious to know about many things such as, love, chat rooms, chat, and sex. There are many issues to talk about but many people usually find chat rooms an arena of showing and displaying their love and ended up with sex. Teenagers know many things about sex and love, but there should always be an ideal age to do something new or creative no matter if it is related to education, love or sex.

Parents should keep an eye on the behavior of their children no matter they uses internet for a short period of time. There is an ideal age to do something. There are many websites that has a content related to adults like sex, web cam sex, or love, which is not suitable for younger children or teenagers. Parents should allow their child to enter into the chat rooms that is totally based on education.

Internet is invented by human being only. Today children have learned to find the answer of their curiosity on internet. It gives children an easy access of their wanted or unwanted wants. Many websites are there, which allows free online chat for youngsters who are above 18 years and wanted to make new friends. There is a perfect time for everything. One should wait for that time patiently and enjoy the casual chat till then.

People may choose their type of environment for chat and they can also gift beautiful backgrounds to their close chat friends. Icons are also used most of the times to express people’s mood like smiley face, angry face, crying face and many other faces depending up on the mood.

Equal opportunities are given to every individual in case of giving opinions online as well as there is no such discrimination on grounds of gender and caste. For making a good impact on any individual, what all need is the skills of expression as well as fast typing speed. A good communicating skill will be certainly a plus point to make any conversation more fascinating and interesting.

In online chat rooms people should take care of their age and talk accordingly. They should value the time, money and age as well. Chat rooms are undoubtedly an interesting place where everyone can meet and discuss their problems, share their feelings and express love or whatsoever. One should always be of ideal age when they enter in any chat room.

Parents and Free Teenage Chat Rooms

Opinion: Here ye, hear ye, the following is only opinion. Every effort has been made to avoid pointing a finger at any particular company or organization in relation to ‘free teenage chat rooms.’ Read, think, research, and form your own opinions. They on occasion scare me silly.

Just about every teenage chat home page I have seen has had advertisements for adult singles chat and/or sex chat! It seems that people are seeking the almighty dollar despite the consequences to family structure or the teens themselves.

In the defense of the free teenage chat rooms, I must say that there is usually some description of suitable behavior for the website.

I have frequently seen such statements as:

• Never give out personal information about yourself such as real name, home address or phone number

• Keep your private information private

• Treat others with respect

• Please respect all others in the chat

• Please Do Not flood the screen with your text

• Please don’t fight with others

I hope there are more in depth limitations elsewhere on the site.

The following are two comments posted on one of the free teenage chat rooms I visited (I have eliminated the names):

• “I must say you have the best looking guys out there for online dating. I really like how your website makes it really easy to find single guys my age.”

• “… (this site) does work, and I would not have met my girlfriend if it wasn’t for XXXXX. So don’t give up hope. It really does work. I have the best girlfriend in the world now. She and I have been dating for two months.”

One search page result had a paid advertisement on the right hand side that indicated ‘teen chat rooms free.’ It listed a direct telephone number with area code. It was not an 800 number, and the participants had to be over 18.

On the home page of another teen chat site, I found six links to other chat rooms. Of the six chat room links listed on this particular page:
1) the first was a link to a teen chat. The remainder of the links are listed below (in order):

2) Singles chat where you could talk, flirt, and meet new friends of all ages

3) Meet sexy local singles, a chat where you could date local singles in adult chat

4) Adult Chat (FREE) where you could meet and chat with sexy local singles

5) Adults chat, a free meeting place for ages 20 and up, and ‘last but not least’ is

6) Chat sites for teens, singles, and adults of all ages (The picture by this last link was a young woman’s head shot. It was of her sucking on a strawberry while lying on her stomach on a bed!)

All I can say is wow! One out of six links listed was age appropriate.

There is no doubt that any chat site will encourage expression, interaction, and perhaps even creativity. Moreover, free teenage chat rooms are a very popular contact choice. Is there a balance between the expression of literary creativity and compulsion? You may want to look into computer and Internet access software that will help block some unwanted material.

Given that the Internet is global, teens engage in chat from all over the world. In addition to the free teenage chat rooms, there are all types of social groups for all kinds of people, including teenagers. Chat groups are tailored to specific groups of people, plus providing services to different lifestyles.

Some chat websites for teens have ages 13 to 19 targeted. I have seen others accept the ages of 12 to 19. Various free teenage chat rooms focus on the 16 to 19 year age group. A few of these teen chat sites boast about a worldwide group of teens aged 12 to 17 years of age. Except for the 16 to 19 age range, the other ranges seems somewhat suspect.

Free teenage chat rooms are generally monitored by moderators, but remember it is ultimately the responsibility of the chatter to chat safely. Chat Monitors in many free teenage chat rooms protect teens from unsuitable activities and some help to keep the chatter friendly. Rules enforced by moderators prohibit racial and abusive comments, harassment, foul language, and the giving out of personal information. Countless free teenage chat rooms report that the site is being moderated twenty-four hours a day. I hope so for the safety of the teen chatters.

Chat websites include the availability of user-created nicknames, and profiles detailing user interests. There are options to ignore specific users, buttons for common phrases; and what are called ‘User Interactives’ that allow such expression as “kiss,” “hug,” “slap” and “poke.” Beyond the free teenage chat rooms are message boards, horoscopes, free arcades, jokes, and search-able user profiles. There is usually a help center, a list of teen slanted links with opportunities to invite friends to the chat site. Some, if not all, allow the chatters to send private messages (private messages?) or play games online. Of course, teens may also share via MySpace, Facebook, Friendster and a host of other social sites, which is another ‘can of worms’ for the parents.

Opinion: Here ye, hear ye, the following is only opinion. Every effort has been made to avoid pointing a finger at any particular company or organization. Read, think, research, and form your own opinions. That’s it; that’s all I know about free teenage chat rooms.

Missing Persons Investigations of a New Age

George Orwell’s novel Nineteen Eighty-Four was first published in 1949. You’d have thought that his vision would no longer be up-to-date 65 years later. The world he described was a world where Big Brother was watching people, constantly seeking information about crime think or any other kind of offence against the glorious super state of Oceania.

Edward Snowden showed us, that what Big Brothers these days are doing is not all that different from what Orwell described. Sure, the technology is quite different from what he had envisioned, but Orwell’s novel is not about science and technology, but about the horrible world where governments might monitor our every move, observe us in our most intimate moments and know about everything we do. Modern day supercomputers, satellites and all sorts of technology make that easily possible for various government agencies.

Yet there is so much information out there that is easily accessible without any spying satellites, supercomputers or without bugging mobile phones. It’s the information millions of users are putting online every day of their own free will, just to get some likes, re-tweets or shares. People tell themselves that they are doing this to stay in touch with each other, but they fail to realize how much of their personal information they are giving away every moment of every day.

With more than half of Australians being active on Facebook, it seems like this would be the most promising social network to start an investigation. The information found on Facebook is truly varied. There are photographs, comments as well as check-ins that give away a person’s current location. Furthermore there is a time stamp on everything, which makes it easy to create a collage of events a person went through at a certain time. No special equipment is needed for all of this with much of it capable of being performed with a simple smart phone.

Of course people tend to forget, that social media doesn’t mean just Facebook and Twitter. Apart from other household names like LinkedIn, Google+ or Pinterest, there are dozens of other smaller, niche websites that cater to all sorts of profiles. Finding information across all of these platforms can turn into a large investigation on its own.

Investigating social media is not only about snooping either. People tend to forget, that Facebook is first and foremost a platform for communication. As many people from the younger generations no longer even have a landline and choose not to publicly reveal their mobile number, Facebook and other social media may be an easy way of tracking them down for communication or to even serve court documents.

Being a private investigator and not knowing anything about social media is something that has become unimaginable in this day and age. While traditional methods such as surveillance are still very effective, they are considerably supplemented with comprehensive desktop investigation based on extensive social media profiling and as the next generation moves more of their life onto the internet the value of this brand of profiling is only going to increase.

Ecommerce – The Importance of Having a Privacy Policy

A privacy policy, also known as an information management policy, is an agreement between a website operator and a website user that determines how the operator intends to use, collect, store, share, and protect the data that the user shares through interactions with the website. Even a little more than a decade ago, some commercial websites did not have privacy policies, but now, virtually all websites have one. These policies, which should be separate from the website’s terms of use agreement, are a necessity for several different reasons.

The Policy Can Foster Transparency and Trust between Operators and Users

In connection with privacy policies, website users usually want to know two things: what information the website collects and how that information is used. Best business practices dictate that website operators let users know the answers to those two questions and let them know how to control that use.

Some websites inform users that they simply collect information for their own use, and other websites disclose that they provide that information to third parties under certain circumstances. eBay’s privacy policy, for instance, tells users that it does not “disclose your personal information to third parties for their marketing and advertising purposes” without the user’s explicit consent. The policy says eBay may share personal information to third parties when it is necessary to prevent fraud or use the eBay website’s core functions. The extended version of eBay’s reader-friendly policy could be improved by specifically informing users at what points of service the information is collected and how it is shared at each point.

A website should also update users whenever the privacy policy changes. It should let the users know when the new policy will go into effect, and it may allow users to agree to the changes, explicitly through a dialogue box or implicitly through continued use of the website.

The Policy Can Help Shield You from Legal Liability

Although there is no general federal law outlining privacy policy requirements for websites that collect information from adults, several state laws and minor-specific federal laws exist. For instance, the California Online Privacy Protection Act of 2003 (OPPA) requires that website privacy policies must contain certain information, including: “personally identifying information collected, the categories of parties with whom this personally identifying information may be shared, and the process for notifying users of material changes to the applicable privacy policy.” The Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA) requires operators to maintain a privacy policy if the website is directed to children under the age of 13 or knowingly collects information from children under the age of 13.

Read for more for additional information regarding privacy policies, terms of use agreements, internet business, and eCommerce.

Darin M. Klemchuk is an intellectual property (IP) trial lawyer located in Dallas, Texas with significant experience enforcing patent, trademark, copyright, and trade secret rights. He is a founding partner of Klemchuk LLP. He was selected to be included in the Internet Lawyer Leadership Summit, a group of lawyers in the US focused on Internet law issues. He also practices commercial litigation and business law, social media law, and ecommerce and IP licensing.